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The Secret to Improving Your Personal Relationships Almost Instantly - I Wish I Knew This Sooner...

Updated: Dec 4, 2023

Do you ever find yourself caught in a cycle of work and personal life imbalance? Trust me, I've been there too. But today, I want to share a powerful secret in this video that can transform your personal relationships almost instantly. This is something I wish I should have known sooner.

Have you ever noticed that after you log off from work or your business, one of the first questions your loved ones ask is, "How was work today?" They seem to be waiting to hear if you've solved that annoying job issue or completed a difficult task. And let's be honest, the way we feel about our work can greatly impact our personal lives.

In the past, I used to believe those motivational videos saying, "You are not your job." or “Your Career and Business does not define you”. But deep down, I knew there was some truth to it. If we're constantly stressed and struggling at work, it spills over into our personal relationships. Our loved ones bear the brunt of our bad moods, our frustrations, and our inability to disconnect from work. For a long while, I failed to consider that I spent 1/3 of my days asleep, 2/3's of that was spent awake and while awake, I spent 6 to 8 — sometimes 10 to 12 hours at work. That leaves me just a few hours awake to spend with my partner, my family, my loved ones – and if I’m lucky, to have time to meet up with friends. If I log off from work in a bad mood, that mood spills over to my personal time. And then it affects my personal life ultimately.

Bad Day at Work = Bad Mood in Personal Life

If I’m constantly unhappy with my work, my business, my career – it also follows that I’ll be unhappy in my personal life because I haven’t met anyone who has perfected the skill of compartmentalizing their work from their personal life - at least not yet. And if someone did master that skill, they probably went through what you and I are going through. It’s a skill that’s quite difficult to master so if you’re imperfect like me and most people, your work life blurs into your personal life to a certain degree.

When you feel great at work, you feel great when you log off.

But here's the secret: when you do great at work, you feel good when you log off. When you’ve had a good day working at your coaching business or when you finish a big chunk of the online course you’re building, you feel accomplished so much that you want to tell your partner about your most recent win!

Our personal relationships are directly affected when we are doing great at our job. Yes, you heard me right. When you excel in your work, something incredible happens. Your personal relationships improve too. Just hear me out…

Now, imagine this: You come home after a long day of work, feeling exhausted and overwhelmed. As you step through the door, you're greeted by the eager faces of your wife, your husband or your kids. But instead of receiving warm hugs and smiles, you're met with cautious looks and hesitant questions.

"How was work today?" They would ask, almost fearful of your upcoming response. And in that moment, you realize that your work has become more than just a job—it has seeped into every aspect of your life, affecting your relationships and leaving you feeling disconnected. I've been there, and let me tell you, it's not a place you want to stay. You see, I used to believe that work and personal life were separate, that one didn't necessarily impact the other. But I was wrong. Dead wrong.

The quality of our work directly influences our personal relationships.

The truth is, the quality of our work directly influences our personal relationships. When we're stressed, overwhelmed, and consumed by our work or running our business, it's impossible to show up fully for the people who matter most to us. But, when we excel at your job, by truly doing great work, you can transform your personal relationships almost instantly.

It didn’t take me long to realize that I needed to be more PRESENT. I told myself that “When you're at work, give it your all. Be exceptional. Be the best version of yourself.”

I found that when you excel at your job, you bring a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction into your relationships. You radiate positivity, confidence, and a sense of purpose that is infectious. Your loved ones will notice the change and respond to your good mood as well.

Now, let’s say you’re an online coach or course creator and you’re running your business solo. You’ll later realize that you’ll need some help with admin work so you can concentrate on the core of your business which is BEING A COACH and CREATING MORE COURSES. You shouldn’t be stuck doing admin work, editing videos for Reels or responding to endless customer service emails.

You can't do it all on your own. Your plate is already full.

Don’t be like me because It was way too late before I finally told myself “You can't do it all on your own, your plate is already full.” If you find yourself in this situation, it may be time to think about hiring a business coordinator, a virtual assistant, or growing your workforce. By delegating tasks and enlisting support, you can free up your time for the tasks you excel at. This not only improves your work experience, but it also leaves you feeling more successful and fulfilled at the end of the day.

Imagine having the freedom to focus on what you do best, while your team takes care of the rest of your business tasks. By harnessing the power of teamwork, you can create a harmonious balance between work and personal life.

After all of this, I’ve come to realize and I hope you do too — before it’s too late – that excelling at your job or your business is not just about career success—it's about creating a fulfilling and meaningful personal life. I always tell my team that “There is nothing more urgent than your personal life.” By doing great work and enlisting the help of others, you can transform your personal relationships and experience happiness and success in all areas of your life.

If you’ve ever heard of “Happy Wife, Happy Life.” — that’s actually true as well but let’s twist this common phrase and normalize a different ideology… Why not, “Happy Career Life. Happy Life.” Right?

Unlock the full potential of your work and personal life by making a commitment to find ways to feel GREAT at your work and your career. We’re going to share more insightful content on work-life balance and delegating tasks to your virtual assistant team. See you next time!

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